“Believe in yourself and one day, others will have nothing but to believe in you”-Mufasa
As children, we were all fascinated with The Lion King. The depth of the father-son relationship was understood much later though.
Neha was a young girl, bright in academics and extra-curricular activities and was always the popular kid, high in demand at school. But for her, the attraction of it used to be the Annual day when she used to receive the trophy every year for her achievements. Honestly, for her, that day used to be the best day of the year as her father used to stand in the crowd, clapping the loudest, cheering for her. When she used to look at his proud face, a totally inexplicable sense of confidence used to stir her up…because the most important person of her life was there for her, always!
Our daddies are our heroes without a cape, thanks to always being there for us and guiding us. We even asked some moms as to why their kids were so attached to their fathers and how come their husbands became rockstar daddies. ‘What was he doing special? Is he really a superhero hiding his identity like in the movies?’ Thankfully, those moms finally spilled the beans.
Today, we will be sharing the ‘ingredients’ (what most moms call them) that men have or need to have that make them amazing fathers.
- Dads rock because even if they have not kept you inside their womb, they have as much experienced your ‘firsts’ in the womb. While supporting their pregnant partners, equally involved fathers eagerly wait for the first sonograph, first heartbeat, and first kick and start developing care and love for you. They resolve to be more responsible, more supportive and even change themselves if need be for the incoming baby. JUST LIKE A MOTHER.
- Dads can be really supportive in baby care. My mother told me that my dad would always be ready to do the diaper changing, the playing with me job, cooing late nights with me, making strange faces and songs to see my toothless smile, bathing me, taking me out, clicking my pictures, nursing me during sick nights and taking to the doctor despite his office routine! He was there during each moment in my growing days. He made sure that he never missed anything related to me. Such men are rockstars and deserve the Best Father award, hands down.
- Dads who support their partners patiently and emotionally deserve a mention. Taking care of a new mom with her spilling emotions and fatigued body, a new baby who cries as it likes and a household that is all over the place is a huge task. Fathers do it every other day with their jobs on just for their families, without expecting much or maybe just a smile from their partner and the precious little one. That too without a sense of duty but sheer love and dedication. Can we now give them some credit?
- Dads know how to strike a balance. A man whose partner is in labour, can be as stressed as anything, anticipating the delivery but the moment it comes to parenting, they can be as cool as a cucumber. It has been widely found that mothers tend to worry a lot about the kids and fuss more than daddies. Fathers are usually the ‘cool’ parent, guiding the child yet not losing their calm over it. The other day I saw this father with his 3 year old son in a toy shop looking for toy guns. Suddenly, the boy started wailing and lay on the ground screaming. Without losing his calm, the father just stood there, laughing. He lifted the child up, said something in his ears and woah! Not only the child stopped sobbing, he got a gun too. The father was neither embarrassed with such display nor losing his mind, an example that their parenting is fun and effortless. They are way more patient and always up for adventure. In fact they have the most non-cliché, practical advices too!
Daddies are often not given the kind of credit they deserve but they look after the baby as much and love them as much a mother does. Not all superheroes wear capes.
“I just wanted to show you I could do it. That I could be brave like you, dad”-Simba